The first ninety days after a separation, mapped

Find your footing.

Divorce hands you sixty things to do and no order to do them in. Footing gives you the order. One action a day. Every deadline named. Nothing sugar-coated.

iPhone app with a companion web app for members. Private by default. Not legal advice.
90days, three phases
65tasks, filtered to your situation
2 mina day is all it asks
How it works

One action a day. Every deadline named.

Answer six questions and Footing builds a ninety-day plan around your situation: kids or not, a house or not, whose insurance you're on. Then it asks for two minutes a morning.

Weeks 1 to 4

Stabilize

Passwords, location sharing, your own bank account, credit reports, sleep. Protect what's yours and stop the bleeding.

Weeks 5 to 8

Untangle

Beneficiaries, the will, the W-4, the QDRO, the house, the insurance. Every account and document, one at a time, with the consequence named.

Weeks 9 to 13

Rebuild

The six-month budget, the emergency fund, one room that's yours, a standing weekly commitment with people, and the next version of you.

The Untangling Checklist

The deadlines nobody tells you about.

Miss the COBRA window and you're uninsured until open enrollment. Forget the beneficiary form and your ex collects your life insurance, whatever the decree says. Footing names each one, dates it, and reminds you a week out.

Deadline rules are conservative defaults and vary by state. Footing is organized information, not legal advice.

Change the passwords that matter most
Day 1 · Admin
Done
Find out whose health insurance you're on
If it slips: miss the COBRA window and you may be uninsured until open enrollment.
Due in 12d
Change the beneficiary on your life insurance
If it slips: your ex may collect your life insurance no matter what the decree says.
Due in 31d
Get the QDRO drafted and filed
If it slips: the retirement split can't be executed and withdrawals can be taxed as income plus penalty.
Due in 58d
Decide what happens to the house
If it slips: your name stays on the mortgage even if the decree gives the house to your ex.
Due in 70d
The Urge button

Don't send it.

The 2 a.m. message. The "just checking in" text. Footing puts one button between you and it, with four things to do instead.

BreatheTwo minutes. Four in, seven hold, eight out.
Write it here insteadAll of it. A journal that cannot send, share, or export.
Read the ruleThe contact rule you wrote on day two, and three true things.
Wait ten minutesIf you still want to send it after, that's a decision, not a reflex.
23days without contact beyond logistics. A slip resets it. That's all it does.
Sunday review

A coach that read your week.

Every Sunday, Footing looks at your check-ins, what got done, what slipped, and what's due, and writes you a short review. Then it asks for three commitments. Small ones count.

Written by an AI coach trained on Footing's voice, with a built-in coach that works offline.

Your coach

Five check-ins out of seven. Good. The days you missed don't count against you; the days you showed up count for you.

You closed the beneficiary change on your life insurance. That one had real money on it, and it's done.

Update your W-4 slipped, and it has a deadline in nine days. Put it first on Monday; it takes ten minutes with HR.

Next hard date: Thanksgiving, Thu, Nov 26. Plan the day now, while it's easy.

Pick three things for next week. Small ones count.

Pricing

Less than one hour with a divorce lawyer.

Subscriptions are purchased in the iPhone app. Every plan includes the web app. 14-day money-back guarantee, cancel anytime.

Monthly
$39/month
Less than 15 minutes with a divorce lawyer.
  • Daily check-in and the ninety-day plan
  • The Untangling Checklist with every deadline
  • The Urge button, any hour
  • Sunday review with your coach
Best value
The Next Ninety
$99/90 days
Less than one coaching session. The whole program. Renews every 90 days, cancel anytime.
  • Everything in Monthly
  • The companion web app
  • Hard Days planning a week early
  • Deadline reminders, 7 days and 1 day out
Annual
$199/year
Keeps going after day 90 at the lowest rate.
  • Everything in The Next Ninety
  • The year of hard days, mapped
  • Priority access to cohorts when they launch

Prices shown in USD. The App Store shows the exact price in your currency at checkout.

Questions

Straight answers.

Is this legal advice?

No. Footing is organized information with conservative default deadlines. Family law is state by state. Every legal task tells you when to bring in a lawyer, and the plan includes one hour with one.

Who is it for?

Anyone in the first year after a separation, whether you ended it or they did, with kids or without, filing or already final. The intake shapes the plan; the tone stays the same.

Is it private?

The app never says "divorce" on your home screen. Check-ins and the Urge journal stay on your phone. The web app stores your plan under an access code, not your name or email. Nothing is shared with anyone, including your ex.

What is the web app?

The same plan, checklist, check-in, Urge tools, and Sunday review in a browser, for the days you're at a desk. Members open it with the access code shown in the iPhone app under You → Web access.

What if I'm in crisis?

If you're in danger or thinking about hurting yourself, call or text 988 in the US. It's free, 24 hours, and they've heard it all. Footing is not a substitute for that call.